Dating’s hard enough without the emotional baggage you may be bringing to the table.And when you’re having trouble finding a love connection, it’s all too easy to buy into the destructive myths out there about dating and relationships.Nothing is as unhealthy and dispiriting as being in a bad relationship.Myth: If I don’t feel an instant attraction to someone, it’s not a relationship worth pursuing.It's also important to recognize that relationships are never perfect and always require lots of work, compromise, and a willingness to resolve conflict in a positive way.To find and build any relationship worth keeping, you may need to start by re-assessing some of your misconceptions about dating and relationships that can prevent you from finding lasting love: It’s better to have a bad relationship than no relationship.
Instant sexual attraction and lasting love do not necessarily go hand-in-hand.
Fact: While there are health benefits that come with being in a healthy relationship, many people can be just as happy and fulfilled without being part of a couple.
Despite the stigma in some social circles that accompanies being single, it’s important not to enter a relationship just to “fit in.” Being alone and being lonely are not the same thing.
Emotions can change and deepen over time, and friends sometimes become lovers—if you give those relationships a chance to develop. Fact: Women and men feel similar things but sometimes express their feelings differently, often according to society’s conventions.
But both men and women experience the same core emotions such as sadness, anger, fear, and joy. Fact: Love is rarely static, but that doesn’t mean love or physical attraction is doomed to fade over time.Especially when it comes to Internet dating, people don’t always accurately portray themselves.