The sex was thrilling, amazing, and, even better, we've decided to start dating.
It could be that following the affair he decided to cut you off. I'm guessing you sided with your mother and have decided to have minimum contact with him.You see she's making a mistake, but she doesn't want to hear anything about it—and you can no longer ground her.It sounds as if you have already tried to explain your objections to her boyfriend and she has rebuffed you.I have not met this woman and have no desire to, especially whereas my mother is still so hurt by the affair and can't even bring herself to refer to my father by anything other than “him” or “he.” I don't see my father frequently. Would it be acceptable to invite him to the small ceremony at city hall being attended by JUST family?
Or do I have to invite him to the reception as well, where he'd likely have no one to talk to, and would upset my mother?
You probably wouldn't want to know, but would it make a difference to you if your father explained that about 10 years ago your mother decided she was no longer interested in sex?