As I have met new women, I find myself attracted to the layers, to their own brokenness, to our common ground and the resilience that comes with life experience. I think I see an inspirational quote every minute on Instagram, specifically about overcoming our failures, learning from mistakes, and being a better person each day.
Not that it requires having been through a divorce … These mantras can get tiresome, but that doesn’t make them less true.
My date brought these perfect books, specifically for their very different personalities … After the expected excitement my daughter says, “Daddy, your other friend brought us cookies …” so awkward and so hilarious! Whether you have been through a divorce, have kids, don’t have kids, never been married, it doesn’t matter. I’m an entirely different man than I was before I was married. When I think about my biggest challenge personally and what I am asking a partner to understand, it’s this: I simultaneously have both deep, intense regret that my first marriage didn’t work out, and no desire to return to that relationship.
I don’t know anyone, anywhere who doesn’t say the same. It has been challenging, motivating, and I have certainly learned a lot. The qualities I bring to a potential dating partner are definitely different.
Over time, I’ve learned I need to be firm on a few things I need in a partner.
And every time it happens, they give me the same advice, “Just call her, dad.”At the end of the day, I understand dating isn’t all about how a woman fits into my life. While my daughters are old enough to be curious, they are far away from dating age.Truth be told, younger children (under age 10) may feel confused, angry, or sad because they tend to be possessive of their parents.