And before you know it, they could suck the happiness out of you, and all you can do is watch helplessly.
[Read: 15 subtle signs of a controlling boyfriend] How to deal with selfish people If you’re traumatized by a selfish person in your own life, don’t hate yourself for it. No one really realizes that a partner or a friend is selfish at the beginning of the relationship.
'It appears that giving up your time is the ultimate sacrifice, more so than dodging charity collectors in the street, bad-mouthing someone for a personal gain or forgetting a friend or relative's birthday.
For years now women have been told to be more assertive in their relationships, that in the healthiest partnerships, you and your man contribute equally—be it around the house or in bed.
You’d only see the signs when it’s too late, and there’s little you can do to change their behavior after that. A selfish person is one who cares only for their own pleasures, even if it causes pain to someone else.
JG: Start by not taking your partner's behavior personally.Selfish people are well mannered and nice to everyone, but they’re nice only as long as they get something more back in return from the people around them.[Read: 10 signs your partner is only using you] The irony of it all is that a selfish person wouldn’t even know they’re being selfish.If you don't like a penis in your mouth, make it something that's a treat for a birthday or anniversary—but get it in the repertoire.
MC: What if only one partner is willing to try to please?
So when people enter relationships, the interaction is often positioned as combative and oppositional.