People with low scores on attachment style anxiety and avoidance are securely attached meaning they don’t fear intimacy or being rejected, whereas those higher on these dimensions have more difficulty in establishing close relationships.Those scoring high on trust and low on caution are less concerned about interacting with others in uncertain environments, whereas those scoring low on trust and high on caution prefer stable relationships compared to new ones.However, as they get older both males and females begin to seek people who are increasingly younger than themselves. When I read a woman's ad and she starts with a list of, "you better not..." I skip it. In addition to seeking females over a wider age range, males also tended to be less choosy in specifying the type of person they were looking for. Also, lengthy ads tend to have a lot of filler, such as: maudlin sayings, chicken soup platitudes, etc. Females need to be choosier because they face a risk which males don’t in terms of pregnancy. This makes a much wider range of partners available for a much wider degree of mating preferences.Males generally seek younger females, as youth is associated with greater fecundity. It's getting annoying as all these article fall back on that supposed fact, when society today doesn't reflect that as a whole.
I call this the Death by Adjectives profile: “I am smart, fun, funny, kind, generous, free-spirited, open book, hardworking, adventurous. ” usually starts similarly, “Well, he’s smart, he’s tall, he’s kinda nerdy, sweet…etc.” The problem with these descriptors is they haven’t painted a picture in your mind of what this person is actually like. Summary The researchers do state that their findings should be treated with an element of caution, although they do tell us about what males and females are seeking in a dating partner. More interestingly however, the findings open up the possibility that we might be able to gain more insight into what the author of a dating profile is really like in terms of attachment style, trust caution simply by reading their profile description. Part of a research project by Andrew Fiore and colleagues (Fiore, Taylor, Zhong, Mendelsohn and Chesire, 2010) involved an analysis of dating profile self-descriptions written by males and females on a dating site.
The researchers firstly looked at the descriptions of the users, finding that males outnumbered females by 58 to 42 percent, whereas the average age of people on the site was 41 years for males and 42 for females.
They expressed their preferences based on an average of 9.1 characteristics whereas females expressed a preference based on 11.9 characteristics and this difference was similar across all ages.